The 3 perhaps Unspoken reasons behind these meetups
While most people have enjoyed coming to Candid Conversations, at least a few have debated the point of it. Beyond what I had written on the blog I just wanted to share 3 reasons which apply to most of us — whether or not you have ever come or have even heard about them. So give it a read irrespective, perhaps you could identify with some..
- We are steadily loosing the ability to have a conversation. We talk to respond and hardly listen. And I would understand if that behaviour was restricted to our parents ,teachers who are traditional authority figures but it’s everywhere. And if you believe you are immune to this. Think of this...how did you respond when your friend spoke about a problem? Did you share a few factual stories on how the same has happened to others or you can identify because you yourself have faced it or instead you sat and listened .
Listen , hear their stories, let them talk. Understand without trying to judge or compare it to something similar you have seen. Because frankly no two stories are similar and we are loosing the ability to appreciate our uniqueness.
2. Somewhat contrary to the above is that it’s only when you have a heart to heart conversation with someone, hear their demons and their desires, do you realize that you aren’t that bad or weak and neither is anyone else that special. The constant voice in all our heads seems smaller when we look at the larger picture and yet it gives a feeling of connectedness when we empathise with the human in front.
3. Finally and this last one is a bit complicated and I could be wrong on this.. BUT I believe we are consumed with distractions.
We are always on the phone or TV or listening to music or even when we meditate we need a phone app :)
We are loosing the ability to be alone and happy and we are constantly distracted with something. To perhaps avoid facing being alone with ourselves…our identity ,our reasons and our mortality. Which is what honesty is all about.
So, if you liked the idea, do attend our next meetup: Click for great conversations 💬